by Sean Jameson | Your Tango
All it takes is confidence and a little bit of know-how.
Do you wish you were sexier but think it’s impossible? It’s not! Don’t fall into the trap of thinking that being born sexy is the only way.
The truth is that anyone can learn how to exude sexiness. The only problem is that there’s so much bad advice out there, whether it’s from some celebrity who’s 5′ 10″ and naturally gifted in the looks department or some psychologist who rarely leaves his office.
You’re in luck because what men really find sexy from any woman is something that I’m going to go into in great detail about. Read on to learn what you can do immediately to appear more sexy in your appearance and your actions.
1. Slow Down And Accentuate
Without a doubt, the most powerful thing you can do right now to instantly boost your sexappeal is to slow down. When I say slow down, I mean slow down your movements and your speech, not your thinking!
Instead of rushing down the hallway everywhere you go, slow down and accentuate your movements. It’s surprisingly simple and easy to do, yet it will dramatically improve your sex appeal instantly.
Another example is when you’re talking to someone and trying to make a point. Waving your arms about quickly and erratically may help to win your argument but honestly, it isn’t particularly sexy and usually isn’t needed anyway.
The same applies to how fast you talk. Don’t ever feel like you have to get every word out of your mouth as quickly as possible. Slowing down how fast you talk by just 10 percent is a really fabulous way to appear more sexy.
Now, a lot of people might think that they should walk as slowly as possible or talk as slowly as possible to seem sexier. This isn’t quite right. There’s a fine line that you need to judge for yourself. Usually slowing down your movements and how fast you talk down by about 10% is perfect. Any more and you may seem strange.
2. Make Strong Eye Contact
If you want to learn how to act sexier, you shouldn’t have to trade your dignity and self worth for it, ever. That’s why learning how to make strong eye contact is a fantastic way to look sexy and powerful at the same time. The next time you’re talking to a guy, try making strong eye contact with him as you’re talking. It’s a great way to say, “Hey, I’m confident and I know what I like.” This is incredibly powerful and attractive to men.
But, just like with slowing your movements down, there’s a fine line between powerful, sexy eye contact and weird, stalker eye contact! You’re going to look like a stalker if you always make unflinching eye contact with your man, without ever breaking it. A much better and sexier way to make powerful eye contact with your man is by holding eye contact with him until he breaks it first about once every 5 minutes or so while you’re talking. Any more than this and he may start to feel like you’re giving him the stalker vibe.
3. Be Sexy, Not Slutty
Often people think that in order to look sexy, they need to dress in the skimpiest, most revealing clothes they can find. This certainly may attract guys, but it will attract them for the wrong reasons. Unless you’re looking for a one night stand, this isn’t something you want to do.
At the same time, it’s important to wear clothes that show off the best parts of your body and help to improve your overall look and attractiveness. You need to find a balance between both. The same goes for your hair, makeup, jewelry and shoes.
4. Don’t Forget To Touch
It’s no secret that your looks are important to guys. But as well as looks, another great way to attract them and get their attention in a sexy way is to touch them. Now, this doesn’t mean you should touch them at every single opportunity.
What’s sexy is when you touch them sporadically. The best times to do this are as follows:
When you’re making a point.
When you say hello.
When you say goodbye.
When they say something funny.
Touching a guy at any of these times is totally natural, normal and sexy. And when you do touch him, it’s usually best to just touch him on the arm or back.
5. Learn How To Build Sexual Tension
The last tip that I have for you on making yourself sexier is to learn how to effectively build sexual tension. This is something I cover in great depth in this instructional video on talking dirty to build sexual tension. It’s actually a lot more powerful than any of the other techniques, since it’s what will keep guys thinking about you when you’re not around.
The easiest way to build sexual tension is through teasing your guy, play-fighting and generally having fun, all the while making sure he knows you have fun and interesting hobbies for your spare time. This is the perfect way to let your man know that you’re awesome to hang out with and you like being around him, but you don’t necessarily need him.
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