The men of this generation do not know how to read in between the lines when dealing with women. They expect everything to play out smoothly and easily when they meet some Nigerian ladies.
Nigerian ladies on the other hand have too much integrity they can hardly bear with putting a strand of it at stake. They enjoy the constant attention they get from men even though they know what they want from the very beginning. To most of them, it is a way of reassuring themselves in order to know how the way they thrive when it comes to the opposite S3@.Xx:’.
Men generally lack the patience to discover the pattern with which the ladies operate. They are quick to judge and some of them give up rather too easily. Patience is indeed a virtue and the women expect the men to dog after them all their lives till they say yes and get the relationship going.
Most women know there would be a time when the men’s euphoria would wash away when it comes to them and they are ,most likely to treat them anyhow based on familiarity.
Thus, find below some of the things Nigerian ladies want you to do while toasting them:
1. Never get tired of doing the chasing
Trust us when we say this is an interesting game to the ladies. To many Nigerian ladies, the time they get to enjoy most when they meet new guys is that time when the guys are doing the chasing; they enjoy the high level of attention, commitment, generosity, love and affection they get from men while they are toasting them or asking them out. Therefore, you are expected to keep running after them; you should not be weary or relent in the effort you are putting in while doing this.
2. Find what they love and keep doing it
While many of these Nigerian ladies may not actually tell you what they want you to do in order not to be seen as being materialistic, they expect you to develop certain skills that will help you discover what they really like and keep doing it.
This would help them in their decision-making process; and in some cases, it may help them discover another use for you. It is essential for you to shower them with money at this stage so they would know you are capable of adding their responsibilities to yours.
3. Hang around, their ‘NO’ could be momentary
The older generation believes it is not ideal for a lady to quickly give in to a man’s advances. This means that some of the ladies would like you and would be tempted to say yes the moment you ask them out.
However, they have to act ladylike and in accordance with the sentimental expectations of the society. Thus, they would say ‘No’ at first and expect you to hang around until the second toasting phase starts. If you were told no and moved on to the next available lady, the conclusion would be that you are a playboy. Therefore, hang around!
4. Talk and chat dirty with her
While you do not want to strike her as some randy guy, she also expects you to show signs that you are a happening guy. This means you will occasionally send her mild dirty texts that you can be sure she would borrow airtime from her service provider in order to reply you. Nigerian ladies expect you to understand their coyness and play this little dirty game with them.
5. Engage her with chats
Nigerian ladies expect you to have the whole time in the world for them; this means you have to be able to keep them active with chats and all. Be on one or two social networking sites that they love and chat with them round the clock.
If a woman finds you interesting, she would keep responding to you until she gets a confirmation in her head that you both are meant for each other. However, if she does not respond to your chat, that means you have succeeded in boring her out.
6. Find one or two mutual friends that she respects
Nigerian ladies are becoming more sensitive to things happening around them. Most times, they expect you to know someone they know that will act as a shield for them.
This mutual friend would make you bond faster with them as they would be more comfortable being around you. If the mutual friend is someone she respects, this would add to your rep and speed up the whole process.
7. Be that dream man of every woman
Many Nigerian ladies expect the men they meet to be that perfect man that every lady would want to crush on. The only problem is that they do not really hand out guides on how to make you become the perfect man that would suit their tastes.
So while asking them out, they want to see certain traits and qualities that would help them ascertain if the relationship would be a long term or short term affair.